Confessions of a forced workaholic

Sitting in my office on a weekend at a time when everyone around me is either spending time at home and having fun or are watching a weekend movie, I think this is the right time and perhaps the perfect situtation to explain "How one can survive in a job you dont love".

Before we actually analyse how to survive in a job we hate its more important to understand when do u realise you are no longer in love with your job.

a. You look at your calendar and count to the weekend or nearest holiday, once in every 45 minutes.

b. You take longer lunch breaks, to finally talk to all your colleagues.

c. Each time you get a new assignment instead of saying "What fun!!", you end up murmuring "What the f*$#!!".

d. As soon as someone gives you a miss call you are ready to put down all your work and return the call even if its a number you have never seen. The same is applicable for personal emails.

e. When you do a job in 12 hours what you would normally do in 12 minutes.

f. When all of a sudden coming late to office is not such a bad thing, though leaving late is.

g. When you are not bothered if the salary has come to your bank or not.

h. When you feel like reading the online newspaper every 4 hours. though you usually wouldnt read a newspaper even if someone hit you with it.

i. When your boss or colleague asks for your assistance instead of saying Why not! u say Why me!!

There are just so many signs.. but hey if I will tell you all of them, it would be just so obivious how I am feeling now..

So the all important question is, how does one manage to stay afloat .. well since I have told you all this, do you think I will leave without telling you that too?

So here are some of the ways to maintain your sanity and ofcourse your job.

a. Make a "Things to do before I quit" list

Whether you like doing this or not, its really a fruitful activity to first write down all the job assigments your are supposed to complete in the near and distant future and keep striking it off as you complete it with aggression. This way you not only satisfy your self and your employer that you are working but also manage to pull through another day.

b. Find time for food, water and loo

Whether we realise it or not, its for the above necessities that we actually take up the task of making a living yet we are so engrossed with work that we forget or dont give it sufficent importance. Find time to have food on time, drink plenty of water and you know the rest. It keeps the mind fresh and

c. Help the "apprentice"

In every organization there would be a new guy, a trainee or apprentice. Find time to help him in his work, give him some tips, check and double check his work. This gives you the sense of satisfaction that you have been of use to someone, and believe me he would always acknowledge it.

d. Smile, Smile, Smile

Life is tough, life is unfair..... but that is no reason to walk around with a face that looks like you lost all your money in the stock market. So what if today is a bit dark, human race has survived only on the hope for tomorrow.. So smile at your colleagues and not spread negative energy.

e. Be Loyal, Be fair

So you might not like your job, but that doesnt mean you show it on your job, convince your self that each stumble is a step towards something better. The worst is over and the best is yet to come.

f. Talk to your self

This is perhaps the last step, once you have pulled as far as you can go, talk to yourself and decide what you both want. No friend, colleague, parent can guide you sometimes better than that person you see in the mirror

and when all the above and some which you have also discovered failed, then write that painful letter with complete honesty and exit gracefully.

Yatra Mozhi- The Journey

A wise lady once told me change is most permanent thing in life,
Hope she realised how difficult it is to let go of the past and move on.
The future looks so bright, so nice and perfect,
though my heart fears if this is another reflection, mirage or illusion.
Its never easy to say goodbye and move on,
it never was and it will never be.
I wont say goodbye,
because this is not the end but just the beginning,
but i will say that it was really great to have known you,
its been the experience of a lifetime to have shared this place we call our work
to have laughed, learnt, laboured together.
All i can say guys is thank you, sorry and will miss you.

Come walk with me

Come walk me along the shore of my life,

Come walk with me..

When I frown seein the tides of life bring down the dreams, hopes and aspirations i built,

be the first to help me build it back again,

be the first to tell me we will make it stronger this time,

be the first to say I am with you forever.

When i stand by the shore line with doubt and fear,

worried how the vast challenges of life will treat me,

Smile and hold my hand and tell me.. if we are together, we cant go wrong.

Come.. walk with me into the sea of life and I promise I wont let go...

When I say the rays of hardships and burden is making me weak

and I look at you with tired eyes and dropping shoulders,

Take me to a shelter, cool and secure,

to sit and talk.. to make me feel better,

to tell me that these rays will pass and we will see showers of joy soon..

To laugh, play, hug, run, eat, dine along this beautiful shore we make our own,

to cry and hold each other from drowin in the sea of sorrow and anxiety,

To scream at the sea and whisper in each others ears.. our dreams, fantasies and endless wishes of a life together.

And when the sun sets on this shore as I hold you in my arms.. and see you have become tired I shall whisper to you.. Its been a long day,you need rest,

Come walk with me..............

Confessions of a lover

Girls have a method to get what they desire. They knw how to look beautiful for the one they love and disguise the flaws by acting cute and innocent. Its a very feminine quality thought now a days males seem to be given it a try as well. I guess that the metro-male has become conscious of his dark or fair skin and uses his assets accordingly. Girls never approach anything untill they know for sure that they'll have it entirely to themselves. And they never beg and cry for it while boys take everything emotion very seriously. Who says that guys dont use their heart? I guess in todays world guys use their heart more than girls and this even takes a toll over them. Lovestruck is the perfect word to describe the long wait and long looks. Guys are surrounded by various astounding factors which keep them thinking all the while... does she love me or does she not!!... girls like to keep them confused. Guys always try to make the female for whom they are head over heals believe that he is not like the others whom she has seen earlier.. then they try hard to give her complete assurance that he knows what he is doing.. there is another round of making sure that he has explained anything and everything and has given his female a complete picture so that they dont complain later and lastly they try to make sure that the female always has a good impression or opinion about the guy... In short guys think they are smart... well!! In my personal opinion they waste their time thinking that they are smart because afterall girls always know whats on their mind, her guy or someone elses'.
Guys try hard to keep the female interested in them... if they dont ... my advice is please do... untill and unless you are trying to avoid her! which is another possibility which again the female would come to know any which ways.
Well initially the guy wants to leave the dorr open for the girl to leave if she finds him uncomfortable to be with but then there comes transition. All this nice boy feeling goes for a toss when he starts getting obsessive and possessive about her. Understanding females can be easy as well as difficult. Firstly they talk till the guy understands that she likes him and then when he realises it finally she starts acting a bit distant so that his level of obsession and possessiveness increases. Thus, after a while his need to talk increases, his desire that she should miss him while he is not around also increases. But the situation is vis versa where the guy misses the girl even if he is away or she is away. I wont say that the feeling of missing is not prominent in the female yet it is more in the male. In short males are more emotional than females. females can curb their feelings but males cant. In a pull to keep her attracted to them guys come up with everythg that remain as special memories for the females... Have you ever thought why do guys give flowers to females?? why do all the movies show teh guy showering gifts over the female? Why during valentines days guys have to get something special for their female? Its not because its a man's job because now-a-days even girls give flowers to their guys.. Its just because guys are always on teh run to make their position in the females life firm enough for him to float easily later. Now the word "float" has many strings attached to it.
Males are in continuous fear that the female might leave them... those who are not in the fear their light of love blows off very soon and very easily. Because their desire to keep the female interested in them and the same efforts from the females is what develops the chemistry and the physics of the relationship. A little fear of lose is very essential to keep a relation alive. Males have a tendency to oscillate in the feeling of does she love me..does she not. Problem is when guys dont understand what to expect from love! it would be a relief if men realise that love is not something one can have in a capsule but an unlimited EDI... (TT says it so assertively that i feel like double checking if what i say is right!)
Now once the fear of lose subsides there is another stage which emerges. In this stage all the emotions are arranged as per priority considering the pros and cons in them. From here on starts the new chapter. This period is that of trust building and complete commitment to the relationship.This stage makes one loose all the prior fear and emerge with a confident and a well organised relation. From here on one tends to forget each others minus' and starts considering the plus'. One starts loving the person with the flaws and faults. After this starts the link is sealed and begins the period where we start taking each other for granted. We start taking each other for granted forgetting the effort, love, passion and commitment and most of the pain one went through towards brining this relation to a level it has reached today. Suddenly one day we sit up, clear our dreamy eyes and realise that this is not the way it was supposed to be. We understand that the person in question here, who is under our vigilant petrolling eyes is worth much more in our lives and all the rights and wrongs dont really matter. Then again we sit and alter our list of whats expected and whats not and we make sure that this list as well is not final and we keep altering and modifyng it and then on never wait for an issue to surface. Then keep love as a framework to develop our friendship our camradrie and make sure that the person you love is also our best friend and if situation requires then that person as well becomes your own enemy because that person will criticize you to the core but you should understand why she says whatever she did. Here, now one accepts whats right and tries to analyse if its wrong. Thus, we should keep spreading the frame of love and plant whatever you want in it and pluck away a little bitter memories and replace them with the truck load of sweet memories.