Confessions of a lover

Girls have a method to get what they desire. They knw how to look beautiful for the one they love and disguise the flaws by acting cute and innocent. Its a very feminine quality thought now a days males seem to be given it a try as well. I guess that the metro-male has become conscious of his dark or fair skin and uses his assets accordingly. Girls never approach anything untill they know for sure that they'll have it entirely to themselves. And they never beg and cry for it while boys take everything emotion very seriously. Who says that guys dont use their heart? I guess in todays world guys use their heart more than girls and this even takes a toll over them. Lovestruck is the perfect word to describe the long wait and long looks. Guys are surrounded by various astounding factors which keep them thinking all the while... does she love me or does she not!!... girls like to keep them confused. Guys always try to make the female for whom they are head over heals believe that he is not like the others whom she has seen earlier.. then they try hard to give her complete assurance that he knows what he is doing.. there is another round of making sure that he has explained anything and everything and has given his female a complete picture so that they dont complain later and lastly they try to make sure that the female always has a good impression or opinion about the guy... In short guys think they are smart... well!! In my personal opinion they waste their time thinking that they are smart because afterall girls always know whats on their mind, her guy or someone elses'.
Guys try hard to keep the female interested in them... if they dont ... my advice is please do... untill and unless you are trying to avoid her! which is another possibility which again the female would come to know any which ways.
Well initially the guy wants to leave the dorr open for the girl to leave if she finds him uncomfortable to be with but then there comes transition. All this nice boy feeling goes for a toss when he starts getting obsessive and possessive about her. Understanding females can be easy as well as difficult. Firstly they talk till the guy understands that she likes him and then when he realises it finally she starts acting a bit distant so that his level of obsession and possessiveness increases. Thus, after a while his need to talk increases, his desire that she should miss him while he is not around also increases. But the situation is vis versa where the guy misses the girl even if he is away or she is away. I wont say that the feeling of missing is not prominent in the female yet it is more in the male. In short males are more emotional than females. females can curb their feelings but males cant. In a pull to keep her attracted to them guys come up with everythg that remain as special memories for the females... Have you ever thought why do guys give flowers to females?? why do all the movies show teh guy showering gifts over the female? Why during valentines days guys have to get something special for their female? Its not because its a man's job because now-a-days even girls give flowers to their guys.. Its just because guys are always on teh run to make their position in the females life firm enough for him to float easily later. Now the word "float" has many strings attached to it.
Males are in continuous fear that the female might leave them... those who are not in the fear their light of love blows off very soon and very easily. Because their desire to keep the female interested in them and the same efforts from the females is what develops the chemistry and the physics of the relationship. A little fear of lose is very essential to keep a relation alive. Males have a tendency to oscillate in the feeling of does she love me..does she not. Problem is when guys dont understand what to expect from love! it would be a relief if men realise that love is not something one can have in a capsule but an unlimited EDI... (TT says it so assertively that i feel like double checking if what i say is right!)
Now once the fear of lose subsides there is another stage which emerges. In this stage all the emotions are arranged as per priority considering the pros and cons in them. From here on starts the new chapter. This period is that of trust building and complete commitment to the relationship.This stage makes one loose all the prior fear and emerge with a confident and a well organised relation. From here on one tends to forget each others minus' and starts considering the plus'. One starts loving the person with the flaws and faults. After this starts the link is sealed and begins the period where we start taking each other for granted. We start taking each other for granted forgetting the effort, love, passion and commitment and most of the pain one went through towards brining this relation to a level it has reached today. Suddenly one day we sit up, clear our dreamy eyes and realise that this is not the way it was supposed to be. We understand that the person in question here, who is under our vigilant petrolling eyes is worth much more in our lives and all the rights and wrongs dont really matter. Then again we sit and alter our list of whats expected and whats not and we make sure that this list as well is not final and we keep altering and modifyng it and then on never wait for an issue to surface. Then keep love as a framework to develop our friendship our camradrie and make sure that the person you love is also our best friend and if situation requires then that person as well becomes your own enemy because that person will criticize you to the core but you should understand why she says whatever she did. Here, now one accepts whats right and tries to analyse if its wrong. Thus, we should keep spreading the frame of love and plant whatever you want in it and pluck away a little bitter memories and replace them with the truck load of sweet memories.